Positivity is Bull*&+t

I don’t know about anyone else, but some days when I read all the positive sayings on Instagram I want to throw up.


I recently saw one that said: “This week is going to be filled with miracles, breakthroughs, good news, abundance and love.”  This might seem like an encouraging thing for someone to put out there, but there is an underlying message that says: “things have been shitty lately but that is going to change soon.”


This is the entire premise of the self-help industry. Something is wrong with your life. That will all change this week. REALLY?!?!? (Just buy my program or book).


I have challenges. Covid-19 scares the crap out of me, but I know that it’s not going to be miraculously fixed this week.


What I do know is that I can take action that is useful. I can maintain a schedule, get out of bed, walk, eat well and be grateful for my blessings.


Nothing has gone wrong. Life changed. There is a subtle difference. One feel terrible, the other is manageable.


Our circumstances changed. Things didn’t go wrong. It just is. It’s neutral. What I make it mean is the difference between panic and calm.


I don’t believe something is wrong with you or your life. If you have an area that you want to improve, seek out useful information and go to work on it. But don’t buy into the notion that you are broken, flawed or need improving. There is a difference between learning a new skill and feeling like you have to be fixed.


Life is a journey, not a problem to solve. As long as we live, we grow, change and evolve. That IS life’s journey. It was supposed to happen this way.


You may think that the plan you made was broken. Imagine that back in February you planned to fly to Spain this week. Let’s say that plan didn’t work out. It was never going to work out. You just didn’t know it back then. Now you know, you were not meant to fly to Spain now. It doesn’t mean something has gone terribly wrong. It means that what you thought was going to happen didn’t. That is all.


Nothing is broken. Your life isn’t terrible. You will, like most humans, make plans again. They may work out, they may not. Just be on the journey. Embrace the experience of sometimes things working out and sometimes not working out.  You can be disappointed when they don’t work out, just don’t make it mean that something is broken or that you did something wrong. It was all just part of the journey all along. You just didn’t know it yet.

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